打老婆爆红的男人出来解释了

jansen

看完这位男士的解释, 如果是真的, 那么基本上的起因就是, 老婆不做工不读书, 爱慕虚荣, 搞上已婚datuk, 花钱如流水,自残, 逼他给她弄残, 互残再自残, 怀孕了但不要孩子等等
然后看他说的, 觉得他有真的后悔和认错, 他也公开完整的CCTV视频版本, 老婆不见几个小时, 之后被老婆打, 打到失控还手

以下是原文: 抱歉只有英文的


CLEARING THE AIR: Calven Chik telling his side of the story to Malaysian Digest reporters at his home in Ipoh yesterday. Pix: SM Amin.IPOH:

“I know it was wrong. I knew it the moment the red mist cleared. I’m sorry.”
That is the admission by Calvin Chik (pic), the man who is at the centre of the controversy involving a series of videos which depicts him assaulting his wife in their branded goods boutique in Ipoh.
Almost overnight, the 26-year-old has become ‘public enemy number one’ on Malaysian social media networks, thanks to the availability of the videos, which has garnered him nationwide scorn and even earned him threats from strangers.
The videos, captured via the store’s CCTV cameras, were uploaded by his wife, 19-year-old Amanda Fong, on her Facebook page. Fong, who is two months pregnant, had also posted up pictures of the injuries she had sustained following the incident.
At last count, the videos have been ‘shared’ almost 25,000 times by Facebook users.
Met at his family home in Ipoh yesterday, Chik said he had no excuse for his actions and expressed remorse.
“I know that there is no reason or justification for my actions and I cannot defend myself over this. It was something that I should not have done. I regret it,” he told Malaysian Digest.
Chik claimed he and his wife had numerous arguments before, some of which had escalated into violence. He admitted that this wasn’t the first time that he had become physical with her, and vice versa.
“I don’t expect anyone to understand it, and I doubt if anyone ever will,” he said.

Bad Romance


Pix: SM AminViolence, he stressed, has not always been a feature of their marriage. The couple first met in June last year and tied the knot on Jan 17 this year.
He claimed that the marriage was good in the beginning, but was eventually soured by the presence of his mother-in-law, whom he claimed was a disruptive influence.
He believed that Fong’s mother played a prominent role in influencing her daughter’s behaviour and for driving a wedge between them.
“My wife had a troubled upbringing. Her parents separated when she was young, and she was raised by her mother and grandmother. This was related to me when we first started to know each other,” he claimed.
His mother-in-law, he claimed, was warm to his at first but he eventually sensed that she disliked him. He claimed that when he went to her to ask for her blessing to seek Fong’s hand in marriage, his mother-in-law rejected him the first time around.
Chik related several incidences of when the mother-in-law’s behaviour puzzled him, such as when the newlyweds wanted to go to Macau for their honeymoon. He claimed the mother-in-law demanded that she be brought along.
“I thought it was a bizarre request, and my wife thought so too. This was after all, our honeymoon. My mother-in-law only dropped her demand when my wife bought her a ticket to London for a religious event, something which the former had been pestering her for previously,” he alleged.

Newfound Wealth, Mysterious Phone Calls
Chik claimed that when he first met Fong, the family was not well-off. Both mother, daughter and grandmother lived in a modest two-room flat in Ipoh.
“Amanda wasn’t working, nor studying, she told me her family couldn’t afford it. But as the relationship progressed, I saw Amanda having quite a bit of money. She then enrolled in a course at a local college, claiming that the fees came from a sponsor from her mother’s company.”
Chik said he didn’t want to question where the money came from, but became increasingly intrigued as her spending increased.
“She later began accumulating expensive clothes, handbags and started dining at expensive places. She no longer had to rely on me for money,” he claimed.
However, his curiosity reached its peak when she declared that she was interested in buying a brand-new Volkswagen Beetle, which costs almost RM200,000.
Chik, who ran a marketing company, claimed he knew there was no way she could qualify for a loan, even if she used her mother’s name as the mother did not make much.
She eventually told him that the source of her new-found wealth was an “inheritance from her late grandfather”, who owned several orchid farms in Malaysia. She told him that she received the money when she turned 18 from the caretaker of the family business.
He was also puzzled by ‘mysterious’ phone calls she received, and claimed that she was secretive over the nature of the calls. She claimed that the calls were from the caretaker.
He claimed she also declined to let him accompany her when she wanted to go and meet the caretaker. He claimed she met the caretaker on a weekly or fortnightly basis.
“Each time she returned, she would take her mother and I out for either a nice dinner or a shopping trip,” he claimed.
Chik claimed Fong eventually bought a brand new Honda Insight, which costs almost RM100,000. She claimed that the caretaker had helped secure the documents for the purchase.
“I tried to avoid thinking about it, but I reassured myself that this was all above board, and there was nothing going on,” he claimed.
  
Infidelity Shock
He claimed that in May, while using his wife’s iPhone to use her web browser, he stumbled upon a series of messages between Amanda and another person. The messages, he claimed, were affectionate and personal in nature.
“I was stunned. I didn’t know how to react to this, so I spoke with her grandmother,” he claimed.
He claimed the both of them then confronted Amanda, who tearfully confessed that she had been having an affair. She claimed the other man was an Ipoh-based Datuk, who was then revealed as the source of her wealth.
Chik claimed that the Datuk, who was married, was someone she had known before she met him, but she was unable to break it off.
“She subsequently pledged to have nothing more to do with the man,” he claimed.
He alleged that after her admission, Amanda became hysterical and threatened to kill herself, claiming that her life wasn’t worth it. He claimed it took sometime before they managed to calm her down and the situation got back to normal.

Depression and Suicide Threats
Chik disclosed that his wife was diagnosed as being clinically depressed, based on their visit to the Hospital Bahagia Ulu Kinta. He showed Malaysian Digest his wife’s medical diagnosis report, which stared that she suffered from depression.
He also later discovered that he suffered mild depression as well, as is currently taking medication for it.
He claimed that she was prone to fits of rage, and admitted that it was not something that he could usually help her with. He cited several instances of difficulty in dealing with her rage issues.
“There was an incident where an argument broke out between us in her home. She then took out a knife and chased me around the flat, threatening to stab me. She then sat on the bed and gave me a choice, which was to let her stab me, or she would stab herself.
“I was at a loss, and I broke down in tears. Her grandmother then came home and diffused the situation. But this wasn’t before she had slashed both her forearms.
“We knew that if we took her to a government hospital, she could be charged with attempted suicide, so we took her to a private clinic instead for treatment,” he claimed.

The CCTV Beating
The incident, he claimed, started from a petty argument within the shop and swiftly escalated into a massive fight.
“I’ve read the comments on Facebook  and on blogs. I know what people are saying. My wife has also accused me of attempting to harm the baby, when it was the opposite.”



UNCUT: Chik showing the full version of the CCTV footage. Pix: SM AminHe alleged that his wife had a history of driving off and “disappearing for hours” when they get into a fight.
“This always has me worried, given her pregnancy and her state of mind. There have been times when we were worried sick as she couldn’t be contacted for hours on end,” he claimed.
He claimed that he was trying to get her to remain in the store and not storm off. He also claimed that he was trying to defend himself from his wife’s attacks.
Chik, however, admitted that he should not have reacted violently.
“I have no excuse for that. It was something that shouldn’t have happened, it just went out of control,” he said.
He said he was fully prepared to face the consequences of his actions. Police are now investigating the case under Section 323 of the Penal Code for voluntarily causing hurt.
If charged and found guilty, he faces a maximum one year jail sentence or a maximum fine of RM2,000, or both.
Chik said he was aware of the possibility and was prepared to face them.
“I know what I did was wrong. I’m not running away from it, I’m not hiding. I will accept whatever comes my way.”

- mD





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最想说的还是
很多事情不要那么快定义, 不要骂, 先听完双方说词才判断吧

你在这里为了发泄, 骂一骂, 这一骂, 伤了多少人的心啊?
当事人? 当事人的家人朋友亲戚, 知道真相的人?


打人若然不对, 但在骂人的时候是否有想想自己也是在发泄情绪冲动一派? ( 是指有在骂的人而已)

Rys

双方都有责任吧~看得出那女的也不是什么善女~

jansen

我也觉得这是双方都有责任

july2007

无论什么理由，打人就说不去。

耀仁

總覺得﹐打人者是不對﹗不過﹐往往“清官難審家事”。。。而“家家有本難唸的經”。。。唉﹗

xin

最令我无言的是，为什么那老婆还要自己把cctv上传面子书？{:1_142:}
家丑不可外扬，那么讨厌她老公干脆把证据拿去警句就好。。
两败俱伤。。。。

XxMickeyxX

悲剧～

kong

遇人不淑的结果，不但失去幸福，还导致身败名裂。。把家事摆上网，只是给外人看热闹，连自己也变成笑话。。

看来每段破裂的婚姻背后都有岳母。。

我倒是很好奇她肚皮里的孩子的爸爸会是谁。

xin

正确翻译，转自网络。。。

“我知道我做错了，当气消之后我就知道错了，对不起。”
Calven  Chik  （上图），就是怡宝虐打太太影片里的男人。
26岁的他几乎在一夜之间便成为人民头号公敌，他甚至遭到了不明人士的威胁。
该CCTV的影片是由他19岁已怀孕2个月的太太，Amanda Fong上载至面子书的。除此之外，她还上载了几张自己受伤的伤口照片。该影片在当时至少被转载了两万五千次。
采访者当时到怡宝探访他和他的家人，Calvin表示他知道自己犯下的错是无法原谅的，而且深表后悔。
“我知道我没有办法给我自己辩护，我做了一件不应该犯的错事。我很后悔。”Calvin告诉记者。
Calvin说他在那之前便与太太有了无数次的争执，有时候的争执甚至演变成了暴力。他承认那并不是第一次打她，而她也不止一次打过自己了。
“我不期望有人能够谅解，当人也不会有人能谅解，”他说。

他们在去年六月认识，于今年一月结婚。
他说刚开始婚姻是美好的，但是由于岳母在作祟，而破坏了这一段婚姻。他相信Amanda的一举一动这都是岳母的影响导致的。
“我太太没有在良好的环境下成长，她的父母自小离异，她是被母亲及外婆带大的。我刚开始认识她的时候就知道了，”他说。
他感觉到岳母并不喜欢自己，当他第一次提亲的时候外母就拒绝了。
岳母的某些举动让他感到很困惑。比如说他们新婚的时候打算到澳门渡蜜月，岳母却说要一同前往。
“我和太太都觉得她的要求有点莫名其妙，那毕竟是属于我们两个人的蜜月。岳母在我太太给她定了伦敦的机票前往某些宗教的庆典之后才打消了念头。那是岳母一直想要去的地方，”他说。

Calven说刚开始遇见她的时候，她们家的处境不是很好。她，母亲，还有外婆一同住在怡宝的两房的组屋里。
Amanda没有读书也没有工作，她说自己的金钱能力并不允许她读书。但是我们在一起交往下去的时候，我发现她还蛮有钱的。不久之后她便到本地的学院就读，她说学费是母亲的公司资助的。
Calven并没有质疑那笔钱的来历，直到后来太太的开销越来越大。
“她开始购买名牌包包服饰，也去高级餐厅吃饭，而且在金钱方面完全没有依赖我，”他说。
当她想要买Volkswagen Beetle的时候，这令他对她的金钱来源感到非常疑惑。因为那台车值二十万马币。
Calven是从事市场营销行业的，他知道以他太太的身份背景，就算是以她妈妈的名义贷款，也不可能拿到那笔钱来购买二十万的车子。
后来他听Amanda说她的钱是祖父遗产留下来的。她祖父在马来西亚拥有不少兰花园，当她年满十八岁后便继承祖父的了遗产。
Amanda不时会收到来历不明的电话，这让他感到很疑惑。而她则说那是监护人打来的。
她每一个星期或两个星期便会去与她的监护人见面，Calven每次要求陪同但都被拒绝。
“每次与她的监护人见面后，Amanda都会带我与岳母去血拼，或者是吃一顿好的，”他说。
Amanda还购买了一辆价值约十万的honda insights，她还说文件是她的监护人帮忙办理的。
“我一直避开问题不要去想，一直要相信我的太太，她说的话都是真的，”他说。

五月的时候，他借用太太的Iphone浏览网站的时候，发现她与不明人士的信息。那些信息是亲密而且带有暧昧的。
“我当时呆掉了，不知道怎么办，所以我与她的外婆商量，”他说。
最后他当面与Amanda对质，她才承认了自己有外遇。她说那人是怡宝的datuk，这也是她金钱的来源。
“她随后还说自己已经跟他没有瓜葛了，”他说。
他在Amanda承认有外遇之后提高了警惕，而她也在那之后时常精神失常，以自杀来威胁他。他们也用了很长的时间来缓和她的情绪。

他们把Amanda带去医院时诊断她患上忧郁症。他还把病例报告展示给记者看。
不久之后他也发现自己患上了轻微的忧郁症，目前正在治疗中。
Calven说Amanda很容易大发脾气，他也不知道自己能做些什么来帮助他。他为了应付脾气糟糕的她面临了很大的窘境。
“在一次家里的争吵中，她亮出了刀，在家里追我，誓言要杀掉我。之后她还威胁我，要不就我让她砍一刀，要不然她就自己砍自己。”
“当时我没有办法做什么，所以我掉泪了。后来她的外婆回家解决了这件事。那是在她自残双臂之后的事了。”
“我们知道如果把她带到政府医院的话，她会被告企图自杀，所以我们把她带到私人医院进行治疗，”他说。

最后那张照片：Calven正在展示未经删减的影片
“我很担心她，基于她怀孕了，还有她的精神状况。当我们几个小时没有办法联络她的时候，我们会担心得要命，”他说。
Calven说当时他只是试图把太太留在店里，他的初衷并不想要施暴。他只是想保护自己免遭太太的攻击。
他后来也说他自己不应该施暴的。
“我没有辩解的理由，那是不应该发生的事情，当时我完全失控了，”他说。
他表示自己正在Section 323（什么法令了我不会翻译）接受调查。
如果被判有罪，他将接受将近一年监禁，最高两千零吉罚款或两者兼施。
Calven表示他已经知道后果了并且准备面对。
“我知道我做错了。我不会逃跑，我不会躲避。我会准备面对一切的惩罚，”他说。

xin

女方也有她的解释~


FONG: Not in the best frame of mind to decide on a reconciliation or a divorceKUALA LUMPUR: Amanda Fong, the woman who was captured on video being beaten up by her husband, has denied his allegations that she was unfaithful, suffered from depression and that she had previously threatened to commit suicide during their marriage.

The 19-year-old, whose videos of the beating was made public on Facebook, has labelled the claims made by her husband, 26-year-old Calven Chik, as “all lies.”

Chik, in an interview with Malaysian Digest (MD) on Tuesday, had claimed that Fong had admitted to being unfaithful to him following his discovery of her alleged affair with a Datuk.

He had also claimed that she was clinically depressed, had previously threatened him with a knife and had threatened suicide.

MD had yesterday related Chik’s claims to her for clarification.

Fong dismissed her husband’s claims as baseless.

“Whatever he said, they are all baseless allegations. I don’t need to know what else he said about me.

“The videos showed everything. How he reacted, how abusive he was. The videos won’t lie,” she said.

The video footages, uploaded on Fong’s Facebook account on Aug 23, had showed her receiving a beating at the hands of her husband.

The incident took place at the couple’s branded goods boutique in Ipoh.

Fong had also previously put up photos of bruises and scars she sustained on her arms, shoulders, legs and collar bone.



HAPPIER TIMES: The couple on their wedding dayBoth the videos and photos have since been removed from her account.

Speaking to MD yesterday, she claimed this wasn’t the first time her husband had beaten her up.

“My hands have even older scars. I have bite marks on my upper arm. It’s healing now but some parts are still raw,” she said.

Fong said she was lucky that the store’s CCTV cameras recorded the incident.

“If there wasn’t any footage, I wouldn’t know how to prove it. And if I had just stood there, I wouldn’t know where I’d be right now,” she said.

She claimed she was still traumatised by the incident.

“I have bad dreams; I cry sometimes. I also suffer pain in my lower abdomen. He used his knee on my stomach,” she claimed



.Chik had in Tuesday’s interview with MD, stated that he did not wish for a divorce, and that he was still in love with his wife despite their troubles. He had suggested a separation, and perhaps reconciliation in the future when things became more stable.

When told of this, Fong said she had yet to give any thought to the matter.

“I have no comments yet on whether I will be seeking a divorce or otherwise. I don’t want to make any decisions yet; I’m not in the best frame of mind right now,” she said.

Earlier yesterday, Fong gave a Press conference at the MCA Ipoh Timur headquarters. Accompanied by her lawyer Datuk G Amajit Singh Gill, she had related her ordeal to the media.

She claimed that the incident broke out after a disagreement over a business decision, which eventually escalated into violence.



– mD